Your Presence and Demeanor control many of the experiences and opportunities that come your way.
Here are a few things to consider today….
1. Never sit with your Arms Crossed.
In the next few days notice people that sit or stand with their arms crossed. What do you see? No matter what they are actually thinking or doing they appear closed and appear to be putting up a road block to you and those around you. Make it an objective to never cross your arms. This will allow more people to open up to you and interact with you.
This seems kind of funny when you think about it, but I believe it is the difference between coming across Very Confident or Insecure. By turning your head and looking straight at someone you are saying “I am here, and I am looking at you” By looking out of the corner of your eyes you are saying “I hope you don’t notice that I am looking at you” Turning your head where you are looking is the powerful way to go. Watch others glance out of the corners of their eyes and let me know what you think.
3. Use great eye contact in everything you do.
Eye contact is incredibly important in everything you do. This takes work if you have neglected this part of your presence. When engaging others or simply passing by in the mall keep your head up, shoulders back and look those around you in the eye with a smile. People will notice a great presence from you and know you are a confident individual. If you are interested in reading more about this topic see Mastering Your People Skills from an earlier post.
A few ideas regarding dress code….
I know! Some of you are yelling C’mon!! Save the sneakers for athletic shorts. There are so many great looking shoes that will dress your jeans up instead of making them look shabby. This is especially important when traveling abroad. Most of the rest of the World wouldn’t even consider sneakers when not out for a run or on the gym floor! Before you say “I’m skipping this one,” Get a full length mirror and check out each look and make the decision.
This look screams Dwight from “The Office”. Just don’t do it. If the event requires a tie it also requires a long sleeve shirt.
6. No Jeans or Jean Shorts on the Golf Course.
Ok, This is a new one for me! Read Golf Attire and you will see why I no longer wear jeans on the golf course. I freely admit, that when it was cool outside I used to wear jeans on the golf course and didn’t give it a second thought. I’m not going to do that again.
7. Suit and Tie ONLY at Funerals and Weddings.
8. When coming across and individual in a business you are calling on (or other situations) assume that person is the owner.
It’s much better to say “Hi, are you the owner? I’m looking for Fred Smith” rather than “Hi, are you the shipping and receiving clerk? I am looking for Fred Smith” The point is, an error in asking if they are the owner is a great compliment. An error when talking with the owner is uncomfortable for all involved. This may seem like a small thing, but every little bit helps!
Whether at a business outing or with a group of friends everyone there will really appreciate your being generous and leaving more than you should. Remember, you are leaving Tax and Tip too (as much as 30% more than what you ate and drank)! The opposite is not very pleasant. Nobody appreciates the cheap person leaving early before the check is delivered!
I did this with my son Tyler and it has paid dividends ever since. When you do this, you empower them to make their own decisions and to become their own boss. Helping them make the right decision is so much more powerful than making the decision for them. You can use this strategy in everything they do.
Put some thought into these things and decide which ones you want to consider. I think you will find them useful.